Comments for Flotsam. Jetsam. http://terraflora.wordpress.com ..and mastering the art of Soulbuilding Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:38:43 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by Sandra http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-445 Sandra Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:38:43 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-445 So you don't regret posting on those sites? I've been waffling as to whether to do it, I was just afraid I might regret it, especially when he goes atomic. But I'm really not doing it for any reason than to protect others. He is back on Match.com with the same misleading profile that pulled me in over 2 yrs ago, and there is herpes in this mix as well.... So you don’t regret posting on those sites? I’ve been waffling as to whether to do it, I was just afraid I might regret it, especially when he goes atomic. But I’m really not doing it for any reason than to protect others. He is back on Match.com with the same misleading profile that pulled me in over 2 yrs ago, and there is herpes in this mix as well….

]]> Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by Sandra http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-444 Sandra Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:38:43 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-444 So you don't regret posting on those sites? I've been waffling as to whether to do it, I was just afraid I might regret it, especially when he goes atomic. But I'm really not doing it for any reason than to protect others. He is back on Match.com with the same misleading profile that pulled me in over 2 yrs ago, and there is herpes in this mix as well.... So you don’t regret posting on those sites? I’ve been waffling as to whether to do it, I was just afraid I might regret it, especially when he goes atomic. But I’m really not doing it for any reason than to protect others. He is back on Match.com with the same misleading profile that pulled me in over 2 yrs ago, and there is herpes in this mix as well….

]]> Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by terraflora http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-443 terraflora Tue, 17 Nov 2009 03:17:52 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-443 Sandra - I have heard "that same man" described so many times, in so many different conversations and contexts. So, I have to understand the 'recognition' that you felt! When did I start feeling better? Well I needed and wanted to get my butt into therapy right away... I needed someone to vent to who would be on my side. And then I got stuck in a bit of revenge mentality for a few months (several months, perhaps)... It was all part of the untangling I suppose.... But I also started grad school (via asking one dang question of my therapist) almost immediately. I mean it was only two months from break-up to "omg, I'm in school!" So I started RE-directing my attention which was a major blessing and high point of my months. Then in about 6 months, I noticed.. hey. I haven't thought about him for a couple of days!! That was the start of feeling much better!! I never took those postings down. The last time I checked on the DDHG site was maybe 3-4 months ago. Who knows who or if anyone is helped. The fact that I did what I could to put up a warning bouy... I felt better in that. LoveFraud IS a lifesaver! It provides such a needed confirmation and re-framing of our experience. I'm glad you found your way there! I hope you are finding your resources for recovery! Friends, good readings, and punch a pillow or two! xx Sandra – I have heard “that same man” described so many times, in so many different conversations and contexts. So, I have to understand the ‘recognition’ that you felt!

When did I start feeling better? Well I needed and wanted to get my butt into therapy right away… I needed someone to vent to who would be on my side. And then I got stuck in a bit of revenge mentality for a few months (several months, perhaps)… It was all part of the untangling I suppose….
But I also started grad school (via asking one dang question of my therapist) almost immediately. I mean it was only two months from break-up to “omg, I’m in school!” So I started RE-directing my attention which was a major blessing and high point of my months. Then in about 6 months, I noticed.. hey. I haven’t thought about him for a couple of days!! That was the start of feeling much better!!

I never took those postings down. The last time I checked on the DDHG site was maybe 3-4 months ago. Who knows who or if anyone is helped. The fact that I did what I could to put up a warning bouy… I felt better in that.

LoveFraud IS a lifesaver! It provides such a needed confirmation and re-framing of our experience. I’m glad you found your way there!

I hope you are finding your resources for recovery! Friends, good readings, and punch a pillow or two!

xx

]]> Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by Sandra http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-442 Sandra Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:43:25 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-442 I discovered your Fall-2007 posts and seriously, for a few minutes I was SURE the man you were writing about, was the man I started dating in Sept 07. Turns out they weren't the same man...and yet, they were. LoveFraud has helped. I'm thinking about posting on DDHG and Womansavers. I would love to find out from you certain things: how long did you leave DDHG and WomanSaver posts up? Do you think it helped anyone? When did you start to feel better - as you obviously do now. I discovered your Fall-2007 posts and seriously, for a few minutes I was SURE the man you were writing about, was the man I started dating in Sept 07. Turns out they weren’t the same man…and yet, they were. LoveFraud has helped. I’m thinking about posting on DDHG and Womansavers. I would love to find out from you certain things: how long did you leave DDHG and WomanSaver posts up? Do you think it helped anyone? When did you start to feel better – as you obviously do now.

]]> Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by terraflora http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-441 terraflora Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:56:03 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-441 Thanks Di!! Words are so often unable to appropriately approach the feelings... but approach, we must! Love you!! Thanks Di!!
Words are so often unable to appropriately approach the feelings… but approach, we must! Love you!!

]]> Comment on Rock towers and Awestruck by Diosa http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-440 Diosa Mon, 26 Oct 2009 11:57:59 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/rock-towers/#comment-440 Absolutely love it and feel the same!!!! Absolutely love it and feel the same!!!!

]]> Comment on Let us ALLOW “Yes”! by terraflora http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/let-us-allow-yes/#comment-429 terraflora Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:24:18 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/let-us-allow-yes/#comment-429 I guess blog-technology changes so fast that I just THINK that I should be concerned with "trackbacks" (whatever they are)!! I will henceforth rely on the trusting link!! Thanks for the heads-up Ian! I guess blog-technology changes so fast that I just THINK that I should be concerned with “trackbacks” (whatever they are)!! I will henceforth rely on the trusting link!!
Thanks for the heads-up Ian!

]]> Comment on Let us ALLOW “Yes”! by ian in hamburg http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/let-us-allow-yes/#comment-428 ian in hamburg Sat, 20 Dec 2008 22:12:50 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/let-us-allow-yes/#comment-428 Hi terra, Just wondering - why worry about trackbacks when you can just drop a link into your text? The one labeled trackback, unfortunately, led to a dead end. Hi terra,

Just wondering – why worry about trackbacks when you can just drop a link into your text? The one labeled trackback, unfortunately, led to a dead end.

]]> Comment on ReConnections by terraflora http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/reconnections/#comment-427 terraflora Sun, 02 Nov 2008 14:51:39 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/reconnections/#comment-427 Nina! It is always a pleasure to find your comments! xx terraflora Nina!
It is always a pleasure to find your comments!

xx terraflora

]]> Comment on ReConnections by Nina Ferrell http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/reconnections/#comment-426 Nina Ferrell Sun, 02 Nov 2008 09:09:32 +0000 http://terraflora.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/reconnections/#comment-426 I have been reading your posts for a while now - posted two comments quite a while back. Your arrival on Facebook is my gain :) Hope to find you there... Nina I have been reading your posts for a while now – posted two comments quite a while back.

Your arrival on Facebook is my gain :) Hope to find you there…

Nina

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